Contributed by: IamShelly1@aol.com - Here is something I had in
my saved file that could be used for lesson #5 to add a little humor.
HAVE DINNER READY-Plan ahead,
even the night before, to have delicious meal on time. This is a way of letting him know
that you have been thinking about him and are concerned about his needs. Most men
arehungry when they come home and the prospect of a good meal is part of the warm welcome
needed.
PREPARE YOURSELF Take 15 minutes to
rest so that you'll be refreshed when he arrives. Touch up your makeup; put a ribbon in
your hair and be fresh looking. He has just been with alot of work-weary people. Be happy
and cheerful and a little more interesting. His boring day may need a lift.
CLEAR AWAY THE CLUTTER - Make one
last trip through the main part of the house just before your husband arrives, gathering
up school books, toys, paper, etc. Then run a dust cloth over the tables. Your husband
will feel he has reached a haven of rest and order, and it will give you a lift too.
PREPARE THE CHILDREN-Take a few
minutes to wash the children's hands and, faces (if they are small) comb their hair and if
necessary change their clothes. They are little treasures and he would like to see them
playing the part.
MINIMIZE ALL NOISE-At the time
of-his arrival, eliminate all noise of the washer, dryer, dishwasher, or vacuum. Try to
encourage the-children to be quiet. Be happy to see him. Greet him with a warm smile and
be glad to see him.
SOME DONT'S-Don't greet him with
problems or complaints. Don't complain if he's late for dinner. Count this as minor
compared to what he might have gone through that day. Make him comfortable. Have him lean
back in a comfortable chair or suggest he lie down in the bedroom. Have a cool or warm
drink ready for him. Arrange, his pillow and offer to take off his shoes. If he likes, you
might even massage his tired feel. Speak in a low, soft soothing and pleasant voice. Allow
him to relax and unwind.
LISTEN TO HIM-You - may have a dozen
things to tell him, but the moment of his arrival is not the time. Let him talk first.
MAKE-THE EVENING HIS-Never complain
it he does not take you out to dinner or to other places of entertainment. Instead, try to
understand his world of strain and pressure, his need to be home and relax.
THE GOAL-Try to make your home a
place of peace and order, where your husband can renew himself in body and spirit.
NOW THE UPDATED
VERSION FOR THE 90's WOMAN
HAVE DINNER READY- Make reservations
ahead of time. If your day becomes too hectic just leave him a voice mail message
regarding where you'd like to eat and at what time. This lets him know that your day has
been crappie and gives him an opportunity to change your mood.
PREPARE YOURSELF - A quick stop at
the "Lancome" counter on your way home will do wonders for your outlook and will
keep you from becoming irritated every time he belches at the table. (Don't forget to use
his credit card!).
CLEAR AWAY THE CLUTTERCall the
housekeeper and let her know you'll need her for an extra day this week. Tell her that any
miscellaneous items left on the floor by the children can be placed in the Goodwill
box in the garage.
PREPARE THE CHILDREN -Drop them off
at grandma's!
MINIMIZE ALL NOISEWhen he arrives
home remind him that the washer and garbage disposal are still not working properly and
the noise is driving you crazy (but do this in a nice way and greet him with a warm
smile...this way he might fix it faster).
Some DON'Ts- Don't greet him
with problems and complaints. Let him speak first, and then your complaints will get more
attention and remain fresh in his mind throughout dinner. Don't complain if he's late for
dinner. Simply remind him that the last one home does the cooking and the cleanup.
MAKE HIM COMFORTABLE: Remind him
where he can find a warm fuzzy blanket if he's cold. This will really show you care.
LISTEN TO HIM - But don't ever let
him get the last word!
MAKE-THE EVENING HIS - A chance to
get the washer and garbage disposal fixed.
THE GOAL - To try to keep
things amicable without reminding him that you make more money than he does.
M2L5
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