Etiquette Flash Cards
Answers
Submitted by Amy Leavitt
1. When
you receive an invitation to a party that includes the letters “RSVP”
you should always write or call to say if you will or will not be
attending.
True.
RSVP
means “Please Respond” in French. You need to call or write the hostess
to respond with a yes or no to the invitation. A host very much
appreciates a speedy response so that the appropriate plans for food,
etc. can be made.
2. Jill
calls on the telephone to invite you to a party. You have other plans
and don’t really want to go anyway. Don’t hurt her feelings. Just tell
her “maybe” and then afterwards you can make up some excuse.
False.
A
dishonest excuse is a poor way to decline an invitation. A vague “maybe”
leaves a host in a very awkward spot. You don’t need to list all the
details of your life. A simple, “I’m sorry but I can’t make it,” is
usually best.
3.
Your
mom says that a neighbor you often baby-sit for has left a message for
you to call her. You have too much homework this weekend to do any
babysitting, so you don’t need to return her call.
False.
Return all telephone calls promptly. Your neighbor may be hoping for
your services and might not call someone else until she hears from you,
or the call may be about something entirely different. Even receiving a
no answer is better than being avoided.
4. Uncle
John mailed you a baseball mitt for your birthday. He’s your favorite
uncle and will know you appreciate it, so you don’t have to make a big
deal about it and write a thank-you note. Besides, you can just tell him
thanks when you see him next month.
False.
Everyone who sends a gift to you deserves a thank-you note, especially
close friends and relatives. A gift received by mail should be
acknowledged soon after it arrives so the sender will know that it
arrived safely.
5. As you
walk down the sidewalk you pass a person in a wheelchair. It is most
polite to just look the other way and to pretend you don’t notice the
person or his handicap.
False.
While it’s rude to gawk or stare at a person’s handicap, it is also
inconsiderate to ignore an individual entirely just because of a
handicap. Someone in a wheelchair or with any other physical limitation
enjoys a friendly smile, nod, or “hello” as much as anyone else.
6. These
days no one expects you to give up your seat on the bus or the subway to
an older person or a woman carrying a child.
False.
Kindness and consideration for others is always good manners on a bus,
subway, or anywhere.
7. Before
you leave a party you need to seek out the host or hostess to express
your appreciation for the party, even if you think the host might be
busy with other guests.
True.
A thoughtful guest always thanks the host before leaving a gathering.
Expressing appreciation at the right times is one of the most important
parts of etiquette.
8.
Introductions are a bother. You can just let people tell the others in
the crowd their own names.
False.
It is very uncomfortable to be in a crowd where you don’t know anyone’s
name. At church, school, or parties a gracious person will introduce any
new members, guests, or visitors to the other people around them. If you
are in a situation where no one introduces you, you may freely introduce
yourself, however.
9. It is
all right to call your parents’ friends by their first names if you’ve
known them for a long time.
False.
Adult friends will usually tell you if they prefer you to call them by
their first names. Courteously wait until they do before you assume a
first name basis.
10. It’s
usually best for young people to stand when grandparents or other older
people enter the room as a sign of respect. Young people should stand up
when being introduced to older people.
True.
Young people do stand for elderly people as a sign of respect.
11. When
someone gives you a compliment on your new clothes, just ignore it or
make fun of it. It looks vain to take a compliment too seriously.
False.
Acknowledge compliments with a simple “Thank you.” When you ignore a
compliment or make fun of it, you put down the person who gave it. It’s
not vain to be gracious.
12.
Accidents happen to everyone, but a polite person apologizes for bumps,
spills and mishaps to friends, family, and even to strangers.
True.
Make
sincere apologies, without excusing yourself or placing blame elsewhere.
Just stop at “I’m sorry.” Don’t add, “I’m sorry I tripped over you but
you stuck your big foot in my way.” When there is a spill or mishap, try
to show you really are sorry by helping to clean up the mess. Remember,
your family deserves courtesy as much as friends and strangers.
13. It’s ok
to leave during a lesson as long as it’s only for a bathroom break or a
drink.
False. Go
to the bathroom and get a drink before or after the lesson. Teachers
put time and effort into a lesson and it is rude to leave in the middle.
14. Youth
need to address adults as “Brother” or “Sister” so and so unless you
know the adult well, then you can use their first name.
False. Out of respect, we should use “brother” and “sister”.
15. It’s
alright to talk out loud and visit friends right before sacrament
meeting during the prelude music.
False. The
prelude music has a specific purpose to help invite the spirit into the
meeting. This time should be used to quietly find a seat and prepare
ourselves to receive the message of the meeting.
17. You
shouldn’t run and be loud in the Church besides the gym, even on
activity nights.
True.
Church is still the Lord’s house on Tuesday. Basketballs, volleyballs,
etc. should stay in the gym, and running around the halls is not
appropriate.
18. You
should always wear Sunday dress when being interviewed by the Bishop.
True. A sign of respect and acknowledgement of the Bishop’s
sacred duties,
it is a good idea to wear Sunday dress at a scheduled appointment.
19. No
visits or phone calls should be made on Monday nights.
True.
Monday nights are reserved for Family Home Evening. Out of courtesy, it
is not appropriate to have meetings, make phone calls or visits on
Monday nights.
20. Those
who need to enter or leave sacrament meeting should try to wait for a
break in the program before doing so.
True.
Unless you are taking a crying baby out, or another emergency, it is not
appropriate to leave during a speaker or musical number.
21. Address
the President of an organization in the church as “President so and
so”.
True.
Priesthood holders are to be addressed as “president so and so”, even
Deacons quorum president!
22. You may
not leave sacrament before the closing prayer, unless it’s an emergency.
True.
President David O. McKay once said, “It is the height of rudeness,
excepting in an emergency, to leave a worshiping assembly before
dismissal.”
23. Saying
"Thee", and "Thine" in prayers is expected of adults only.
False.
The handbook states that “prayers should be brief and simple and should
be spoken as directed by the Spirit. Members should use the pronouns
Thee, Thy, Thine, and Thou when addressing Heavenly Father.
All members should say an audible amen at the end of the prayer.
24. The
advisor of your young men and young women class conducts the Sunday
class instruction.
False.
A member of the quorum or class presidency conducts the Sunday class
instruction, which includes introducing the lesson and teacher, if
needed, and closing the meeting with a closing prayer.
25. Be sure
to wear “Sunday best” to sacrament meeting and to the temple.
True.
(Discussion) What is Sunday best? Informal, slouchy clothing in our
meetings leads to informal and slouchy conduct.
26. The
Bishopric sits on the stand so that they can make sure the members are
behaving appropriately.
False.
Elder Boyd K Packer said: “The one who presides in a meeting should sit
on the stand and sit close to the one conducting. It is a bit difficult
to preside over a meeting from the congregation. The one who presides
is responsible for the conduct of the meeting and has the right and the
responsibility to receive inspiration and may be prompted to adjust or
correct something that goes on in the meeting. That is true whether it
be an auxiliary meeting presided over by the sisters or any of our
meetings. The first counselor always sits on the right of the
president; the second counselor on the left. That is a demonstration of
doing things “decently and in order”, as Paul told us.”
27.
You
may ask for a calling if you feel inspired that that’s what you need to
do.
False.
Elder Boyd K. Packer said: “We do not aspire to calls in the Church,
nor do we ask to be released. We are called to positions in the Church
by inspiration. Even if the call is presented in a clumsy way, it is
not wise for us to refuse the call. We must presuppose that the call
comes from the Lord.”
28. There
is appropriate attire for passing the sacrament.
True.
29. There
is an appropriate way to take the sacrament.
True.
Members should take the sacrament with their right hand, then take the
tray with their right hand and pass it.
30.
Reverence is required between the closing song and the closing prayer.
True.
Just because the song is over doesn’t mean that the meeting is over. It
is important to be respectful of the Spirit in between the song and the
prayer.
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